As discussed in a prior post here, Where To Meet Asian Women, online dating is just one of many methods to meet Asian women. Asian dating sites are not for everyone or every situation, however when it comes to meeting traditional Asian women who are marriage minded and family oriented, Asian dating sites are actually fairly effective for this purpose. As with any approach, there are several pros and cons:
Pros of Asian Dating Sites
- Easy way to access a portion of the nearly 2 billion Asian women throughout Asia
- Many genuine women who are seriously looking for marriage and families
- Women will actively pursue you giving you many choices on several sites
- With free communication tools like WeChat and Skype, it’s pretty easy to have free voice and video communications with Asian women you meet on these sites
- Asian women from the US and other western countries use these dating sites as well, albeit there are far more women from Asia on the sites
- For Asian countries with fast growing or large economies, it’s not unusual to find women with decent economic means on the sites
- Many Asian countries consider women old maids past the age of about 28, so you will find many extremely beautiful Asian women on Asian dating sites who are dateless in their home country
- Honor and honesty are huge values for most Asian raised women, so most profiles will be very forthcoming and accurate – for instance, most women openly reveal their weight, something you never see on US dating sites
- Dating site subscriptions are usually fairly affordable and comparable to US dating site pricing
Cons of Asian Dating Sites
- Distance and time zone differences – the electronic tools help, but sooner or later you have to meet in person
- You have to be able to spot the green card seekers and gold diggers – as with all dating sites, there are always a few bad apples
- Particularly in the poorer countries, you will be considered rich by their standards and some women will try to take advantage of that
- These sites are not good for casual dating
- English skills and culture differences can complicate communications
- When and if things get serious, depending on the country, immigration, visas, and the like can be time consuming and expensive
Net, net, if you are not ready to get serious, then Asian dating sites are probably not for you, but if you are pretty serious and willing to spend the time find a great lady, Asian dating sites can be a good option.
How To Get The Most Out of the Asian Dating Sites
- Decide which countries you want to focus on. For Black men, here are some straightforward and honest thoughts on the key Asian countries – your experiences may vary:
- Philippines: The easiest Asian country for Black men to find women and from the moment you sign up, you will likely receive lots of attention from the Filipinas. Lots of genuine women, good English skills and many are Christians. A poor country, so be careful of gold diggers and green card seekers. If she asks for money for family or emergencies, just say no and find a different woman. Again there are many genuine, honest Filipinas to choose from, so just sort through them until you find the right one.
- Japan: A certain subsection of Japanese women particularly from the larger cities, are very open to Black men. You will likely not be swarmed by Japanese women as you will be on the Filipina sites, but you can make connections with many high quality Japanese ladies. Be careful of the many unsatisfied Japanese wives who can waste your time, but most will be very forthright about whether they are married or not, so just ask if it is not clear. Japan is one of the easier Asian countries for travel with many direct flights to / from Tokyo from many large US cities and typically no travel visa requirements. Japanese women are more westernized than other Asian countries and it is not unusual to have Japanese women travel to the US on their own dime to meet you if they are interested. Also be aware that the Japanese sites may not have as many women as some of the other country sites since dating sites are still gaining acceptance in Japanese culture.
- China: Wide variety of women in China. Most Chinese women on the Asian dating sites will be seriously looking for marriage and family. Chinese women can move very quickly when they believe you are the one, so make sure you are comfortable with the pace of the relationship. Except for those from the large cities or those who have exposure to foreigners, most will have little to no experience with Blacks. Culture differences can be very sharp and many Chinese have difficulty adapting to anything other than the Chinese way, so make sure either you can adapt to her way or she has enough flexibility for you. Not all, but some Chinese will have much better financial situations than you might imagine. If you get to the travel stage, leave enough time to obtain travel visas which are typically required for both visitors to China and Chinese traveling outside of China.
- Korea: Many native Korean women are curious about Black men, but the societal and group pressure to conform to Korean ways is very strong in Korea, so many Korean women will not act on their curiosity in Korea. Koreans can be very blunt and critical with each other in public and private and they often scrutinize each other over many small details, so rude comments unfortunately can be the norm. Also probably more than most other Asian countries, Koreans are very concerned about diluting their numbers by mixing with foreigners, so many Korean women simply will not risk a relationship with Black men while in Korea. The women who do date Black men in Korea are very brave and strong to endure the pressure from other Koreans. Once Korean women immigrate outside of Korea, Korean women marry out of their race at much higher rates than all other Asian groups and in the US, Black / Korean relationships are the second most prevalent combination after Black / Filipino relationships. If you like Korean women, you are likely better off finding Korean women in America, but you can find some brave souls on Korean dating sites. Your mileage may vary.
- Vietnam: Another tough country for Black men to date in internationally. Parental pressure for Vietnamese women not to date Black men can be insane. Even while in the US, Vietnamese parental pressure can be off the charts. When Vietnamese women date outside their race, they show far more preference for white men than any other group of Asians. Vietnamese women tend to be very beautiful, hard working, and entrepreneurial and they can make great partners, but outside of some Vietnamese pockets in SoCal, you are likely swimming uphill, but again your mileage may vary.
- Thailand: Unfortunately, the sex trade is very vibrant in Thailand and it is an easy option for Thai women who do not have many other economic options. Just being very honest, while there are many great ladies in Thailand, the sheer numbers and ease for Thai women to be active in the Thai sex scene, make it very difficult to build trust with women in Thailand from long distance. There are many stories of guys, both black and white, meeting women in Thailand, sending money to them after they return to the US to supposedly keep the lady from working in the bars, and then finding out that she never left the bars despite telling you that she did. Additionally Thai women ranked #2 on a recent global most unfaithful wife survey where women around the world openly admitted to cheating on their relationship. Thai women also have an insane desire for white skin. If you want something more than pay for play sex in Thailand, it is likely another uphill battle for Black men there, but of course your mileage may vary.
- Once you decide on which country to focus on, sign up for the 3 month membership – this is the best value for most sites. Most also have a free membership as well, but you can not send messages with the free membership, so it is kind of meaningless, other than just browsing the profiles. Also pay attention to whether the site automatically renews your membership or not at the end of your 3 months – many do not, but some do. See if there is a way to opt out of the automatic renewal OR add a reminder to your calendar to notify you when you need to cancel in 3 months.
- Use the advanced search feature of the site to your advantage. Decide on the criteria that really matter to you and do not bend on your requirements. You simply do not need to settle as there should be plenty of women to fit your criteria.
- Unless you know her language, look for women with good English skills. Communication is important and if you don’t share a common language, it will make the process very difficult.
- Unless you plan on relocating to her country, make sure she has checked yes on the “Will you relocate” question. Don’t waste time on women who are trying to make up their mind on whether they will relocate or not, because in 9 out of 10 cases, when they say “I don’t know” to the relocation question, that means they will not relocate.
- Be sure to also search for women who live in the US, Canada, Mexico, the Caribbean, or Western Europe. A long distance bi-coastal US relationship will be far less expensive and complicated than a long distance trans-pacific relationship.
- Once you have communicated a few times back and forth on the site, if the connection seems to be real, move the conversation over to one of the free mobile communication tools like WeChat, LINE, Kakao Talk, Viber, or Skype. These tools will allow you to communicate via text, voice, or video – all for free.
- Do not consider any travel until you have been communicating near daily for at least 3 months. In that 3 months time, you should have voice and video chatted regularly and you should not have any doubts about what she looks like or sounds like. You should also have asked many of the hard questions during this time and you should have little doubt about her sincerity.
- Unless you know her country very well, the first visit should be her visiting you OR maybe you both travel to a designated place like perhaps a midway point like Hawaii. The good thing about her visiting you is that you both need to figure out whether she can live in your country or not. Keep in mind that many Asian women will have an idealized view of the US before they visit and once they visit the US, their bubble view of the US sometimes pops which can change their whole outlook on relocating. By you visiting her country, you learn nothing about her ability to live in your country.
- If at any time you figure out that the relationship just won’t work, end it and move on. Also, no matter how sad the sob story may be, never send money to women on these sites. A request for money is your clue to find another woman. There are many honorable women on these sites who will never ask you for money, so don’t believe that all of the women will ask you for money. Some of the big questions you want to figure out:
- Her sincerity level. Is she teetering or is she pretty serious about the relationship?
- Why does she want to move to your country? Does she have an idealized view of your country?
- Can she relocate and live in your country?
- Is she trying to move her whole family to the US over time or just her?
- How will her parents and family react to her relationship with you? How will she handle the pressure they may give her?
- How trustworthy is she? Does she do what she says she will do? How has she handled other big decisions in her life?
- In her own country she may not receive much attention, but if she moves to the US, she could receive a lot of attention. How does she handle the attention she receives when she visits you in your country?
- Is she looking at you as just a big ATM? Does she expect you to financially support her family? Is she just looking for a green card?
- How do you guys handle cultural differences or disagreements? Is she adaptable? Are you adaptable? What happens when you can’t resolve the difference?
- How is her temperament? Does she lose her cool easily?
- Many Asian raised families do not display much affection. How does she handle you giving her affection? Does she give you enough affection?
So with that background, here are the top reputable Asian dating sites. Several of these are part of the Cupid Media group, which is one of the oldest and most trusted groups in Asia which is very important in this part of the world. There are many Asian dating sites out there, many of which are not that great or questionable, but these sites are well referenced and are the best. Even so, in all cases, use your common sense, and reach out to other guys who have used these same sites if you have questions.
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Good luck with your search!
Since 2001, FilipinoCupid.com has connected thousands of Filipino singles with their matches from around the world, making them one of the most trusted Filipino dating sites. As one of the largest dating sites for the Philippines, they have a membership base of over 2 million Filipinas interesting in finding single men for serious relationships. Many of the members here are online daily to increase their chance at success.
2. Japan Cupid
Japan Cupid has joined a great many Japanese singles with their matches from around the globe, making it a standout and amongst the most trusted Japanese dating destinations. Started in 2005, Japan Cupid is one of the largest Japanese dating sites and they have many Japanese ladies who are very interested in international men.
Cherry Blossoms was started over 35 years ago as a picture personals magazine. In 1995, the magazine was converted into a website where men and women seeking relationships could easily find love online, by publishing their photos and personal ads. Cherry Blossoms is popular mainly in southeast Asia with women from China, Philippines, Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, and Malaysia.
China Love Links recently changed its name to China Love Cupid, but it’s still the same great site. As the leading English language online Chinese personals and dating site, they have connected thousands of Chinese singles with their matches from around the world, and they especially focus on connecting Chinese women with Western men. Looking through profiles on China Love Cupid, you will find many highly educated and very attractive women, many of whom are considered past the dating age (28) in China, but are very desirable by western standards.
5. Korean Cupid
Korean Cupid is a Korean dating and personals site that assists people in finding a Korean partner for friendship, dating or romance with people from all around the world. The entire site can be viewed in either English or Korean. Korean Cupid is one of the largest Korean dating sites around and has a large international membership.
For people serious about international marriage – VietnamCupid is a dating website for different cultures and of different ages. It’s an open “club” where men and women can flirt and socialize freely among themselves. VietnamCupid has been a big hit among men who want to meet Vietnamese women directly on their own without the use of a marriage broker, which are commonly used in Vietnam.
7. Thai Cupid
Since 2002, Thai Cupid, (formerly ThaiLoveLinks) has connected thousands of Thai singles with their matches from around the world, making it one of the most trusted Thai dating sites. They have a large member base of over 1 million members. Thai Cupid is the best site to meet honest and respectable Thai women, everyday women with normal jobs, as opposed to the bar girls and ladyboys you find at some of the other Thai dating sites.
Finally, for guys looking for long term relationships with Asian women, all of these websites are head and shoulders above the other choices you have for Asian dating sites. Also check out this post to see the top 3 dating sites I see Black men having the most success on.
Many blessings to everyone!