Let’s face it, while Black and Asian couples are one of the fastest growing interracial combinations, there are certain Asian ladies who are not very likely to date Black guys, as well as certain Asian women most likely to date Black guys. Knowing the difference can save you a lot of time. It’s also true that certain Black guys are not very likely to date Asian women, so it’s really a two way street. When considering any interracial relationship, there are always those men and women who are open to dating other races and those who are more likely to stick to their own race. Both Black men and Asian women marry outside their race at fairly high rates with 24% of Black men in the US married to non-Black women and 36% of Asian American women married to non-Asian men – see the post Interracial Marriage – Asians and Blacks, so it really just comes down to finding the right person. In this post, we will discuss the types of Asian women most likely to date Black guys. We will also look at the type of Asian women who are least likely to date Black men, as well as the types of Asian women that Black men should probably avoid, even if they are open to dating Black men.
Types of Asian Women
One of my favorite Youtube channels is The Fung Bros, a very funny, but down to earth and educational channel by two Chinese American brothers – David Fung and Andrew Fung. They describe their Youtube channel as being devoted to advancing the education and discussion of Asian and Asian-American topics for people around the world, and through their artful use of comedy and collaborations with several guest experts, they do a great job of giving us a behind the scenes look at Asian Americans and their daily lives. One of their most popular videos is called 18 Types of Asian Girls, where they break down the different types of Asian American women into 20 different types – two of their 18 types had more than one type:
- Asian Baby Girl – the female Asian gangster
- Good Asian Girl – traditional sweet and cute Asian lady
- Yappie Asian Girl – the young Asian professional
- Rich FOB Asian Girl – rich Asian ladies “fresh off the boat” from Asia
- Normal FOB Asian Girl – students and other “fresh off the boat” Asian ladies with VISA drama
- Geeky Asian Girl – geeky nerd Asian women
- Brainiac Asian Girl – super nerdy Asian ladies from nerdy Asian families
- Sporty Asian Girl – fitness, health, and sports focused Asian ladies
- Party Asian Girl – Asian ladies who love to party
- Blonde Sorority White Washed Asian Girl – Asian ladies who really wannabe White
- Rocker Alternative White Washed Asian Girl – edgy, cynical, counter Asian culture women who mainly date White guys
- Hipster Asian Girl – hip, cool, internet savvy Asian ladies
- Fashionista – highly fashion oriented Asian women
- Feminist Activist Asian Girl – the angry Asian girl who is always worked up about her particular cause
- Church Loving Asian Girl – highly religious Asian women
- Rich Asian Girl – the Asian lady from a rich Asian American family
- Urban Rap Asian Girl – the Asian lady who loves urban culture
- Dancer Asian Girl – Asian women who love to dance
- Forever Single Asian Girl – Asian ladies with ridiculously high standards for guys
- Foodie Asian Girl – Asian women who love food
As the Fung Bros admit, they made up this list with a little help from their friends, but it seems to make sense and many of their Asian viewers have validated the types. Many of their Asian female viewers also classified themselves as a combination of several types, not just one type. While it’s not a perfect list, the Fung Bros have been doing videos on Asian culture for many years now and the validation from their viewers is pretty compelling. One of the important things to realize from this list is that Asian women do not neatly fit into one simple box as people sometimes like to think. Also many of the types of Asian women identified by the Fung Bros are very different from the stereotypes that many hold about Asian women.
Since the Fung Bros focused mainly on Asian American women, I will take the liberty and add 3 more types of Asian women focused more on Asian women in Asia to complete the list:
- USA Dreamer Native Asian Girl – Asian ladies who live in Asia, but dream of living in the US, often with unrealistic views of life in the US
- Practical Native Asian Girl – Asian ladies who live in Asia who accept the practicalities of living in Asia with no real desire to move to the west
- Poor Asian Girl – Asian ladies who live in either Asia or the US who live in poor conditions and often struggle just to get by
In the following breakdowns of Asian women most likely, possibly, and least likely to date Black men, please consider these as general guidelines, and not as hard and fast rules. You can meet Asian women from the most likely categories who will not date Black men and you can meet Asian women from the least likely categories who will date Black men, so just use your common sense in every situation.
Types of Asian Women Most Likely to Date Black Men
- Urban Rap Asian Girl – These women appreciate urban and Black culture and often interacted with Blacks when they grew up. Be aware that some urban rap Asian girls really only like urban Blacks and will not get along well with “suburbia” type Blacks.
- Poor Asian Girl – These women are often very sweet and caring and can make great wives. While they are interested in improving their lives, they are often more interested in love and family, rather than just their finance situation. Be careful that she may expect you to provide financial support for her family as well once you are married or in a long term relationship. You need to be very clear about this expectation before getting into a long term relationship with the poor Asian girl.
- Dancer Asian Girl – You will likely connect with the dancer Asian girl through dancing in one form or another and they will often appreciate your dance skills which can lead to a relationship. Sometimes these relationships are best kept to the dance floor, but sometimes you can successfully move the relationship beyond the dance floor since you already have at least one common interest.
- Hipster Asian Girl – The hipster Asian girl prides herself on her variety of friends of different ethnicities and she appreciates the cool and hip points she gains from hanging with her Black friends. The hipster is often very progressive and open, but she is mainly interested in other hip people who have an interesting story. She will not be as attracted to one dimensional, boring, or uninspiring guys.
- Sporty Asian Girl – The sporty Asian girl comes in two varieties – the sports oriented girl and the fitness oriented girl. The sports oriented Asian girl can connect easily with Blacks through sports whereas the fitness oriented Asian girl can sometimes be singularly focused on her own fitness goals. Both types though appreciate fit guys who are active and prioritize taking care of themselves physically. Couch potatoes need not apply.
- Yappie Asian Girl – Yappies can sometimes connect with other upwardly mobile professional Blacks particularly when they share the same profession. They appreciate Blacks who have put in the work in building their careers the same way they have. Sometimes you can connect through the common struggle of breaking through the glass ceilings that minorities often face.
- Party Asian Girl – The party girl loves to party and be seen with other movers and shakers on the social and nightclub scene, so she will hang with Blacks who fit this category, even though her main crowd will be other party Asian girls. It can be tough to have meaningful relationships with party girls as they tend to be superficial, materialistic, and immature in their thinking often. Be aware that this type also loves to shut down guys if you either don’t fit her definition of cool or you can’t sponsor her party lifestyle.
- Normal FOB Asian Girl – If the normal FOB Asian girl is in the US on her own, maybe in school, or perhaps getting out of a failed relationship, she will typically be open to dating Black men, but you really have to sort out her true intentions. Some – not all – FOB Asian girls are mainly looking for a steady English tutor, or someone who can help them acclimate to American culture, or someone to help them sort out their VISA issues, so they will be in a relationship with you as long as you can help them with their FOB related needs. If the FOB Asian girl already has a big support group or family in the US, she may be a little less likely to date Black men as she will be heavily influenced by her support system.
- USA Dreamer Native Asian Girl – This Asian lady lives in Asia, but has dreams of living in the US and often sees life in the US in an overly idealized way. She likely has only seen movies about living in the US which contributes to her unrealistic view of America. You are likely to meet this type in your travels in Asia or perhaps online in social media or dating sites. She is not necessarily looking to meet Black men, but she will be often be open to you as an American guy. A couple of big risks with this type of Asian girl – first, she may only be looking for a green card and she may lose interest in the relationship after she obtains that, and secondly, once she realizes that America is not completely the land of milk and honey that she dreamed about, this can be a big letdown for her and she may suddenly want to go back to her home country.
- Asian Baby Girl – She is the bad ass Asian “gangster” girl. Being with a bad boy Black guy can actually give her a little “street cred” as a bad ass. The problem with many ABGs is that they are only about the ABG look, not the ABG life. Also even the ABGs who are about the ABG life are actually pretty soft and insecure once you really get to know them, despite portraying this bad ass vibe. A true ABG will only hang out with bad boys and is tough both inside and outside, but watch out for the wannabe ABGs.
Types of Asian Women Who May Possibly Date Black Men
- Church Loving Asian Girl – If she attends American churches, particularly one of the many diverse, multicultural churches in places like California, she will be open to dating Black christian men. She may even date non-christian Black men with the intent of converting them to Christianity. If she attends one of the Asian American churches where they conduct services in native Asian languages, she is not as likely to date Black men.
- Feminist Activist Asian Girl – The angry Asian girl hates to be objectified and hates any guy who she perceives has “yellow fever” – you really have to approach her as a person, not as an Asian, which frankly is a good approach in general. She will not tolerate guys who ask her stupid stereotypical questions and she has a short fuse generally for any kind of nonsense. If she has a big cause that she identifies with and you are a true supporter of that cause, you may have a chance with her. Sometimes the angry Asian girl is not very tied to Asian culture which can make her more progressive in some ways.
- Foodie Asian Girl – Most Asian American women are foodies. While many Asian women are experts in the food of their own culture, they often do not know much about other Asian foods, American foods, or latin or middle eastern foods, so their foodie motivation in part is just exploring the many foods they did not grow up with. As long as you are open to new and sometimes different food, you can relate to the foodie, but if your diet is fairly restricted for whatever reason, you may have difficulty relating to foodies.
- Geeky Asian Girl – Geeky Asian girls are nerds and somewhat aloof to American culture. If you are a nerd as well, you can probably relate to geeky Asian girls, but otherwise this can be a tough match for many Black men.
- Brainiac Asian Girl – Brainiacs are similar to geeky Asian girls and unless you are also a Brainiac – similar to Dr. Tyrone Hayes and Dr. Kathy Kim who have been married for 21 years as of 2015 – this can be a tough relationship. Be aware that Brainiacs can sometimes be mentally very open to interracial dating, but they often have not thought through the practicalities of interracial dating – it’s all just a mental concept for them.
- Practical Native Asian Girl – You will most likely meet the practical native Asian girl during your Asian travels, or perhaps online. She lives in Asia and is doing just fine living her practical life in Asia. If you are both struck by the cupid arrow during your meeting, she may be open to dating a Black man, but only if you can relocate to Asia to live in her country. Sometimes the practical native Asian girl will be reluctant to date a Black man in her home country, but if you can ever convince her to move to the US, which will be tough with this type of Asian lady, she will be very open to dating a Black man in the US. This happens with many Korean women who would never date a Black man in Korea, but once in the US, they are much more open to dating Black men.
- Fashionista – CJ & Kat, who run the Ourmode fashion blog are the perfect example of a Blasian fashionista couple, so yes, fashionista Asian women will date Black men. The difficulty with fashionistas is that they can be very high maintenance and are often materialistic. If you are equally fashionable and don’t mind sponsoring her lifestyle in part or whole, this relationship can work, but otherwise this may be a tough matchup.
- Rocker Alternative White Washed Asian Girl – This may seem like an unlikely match for Black men at first glance, but rocker Asian girls end up with Black men in two ways typically – first, the suburbia Black guys are often a good match for rocker alternatives, and second, if the rocker alternative Asian girl has a bad experience or two with white guys, she will often become much more open to dating Black guys. Make no mistake though that their first choice is white guys.
Types of Asian Women Not Likely To Date Black Men
- Good Asian Girl – The good Asian girl is very nice and kind, but she is also very family oriented and would not ever think of letting down her family. Maybe in a few years, things will be different, but for now, most Asian/Black relationships require the Asian woman to go against her parent’s desires which the good Asian girl is not very likely to do. If her family is very progressive, and some Asian families are, the good Asian girl could be a good match, but don’t count on the family always being progressive.
- Rich Asian Girl – The rich Asian girl may know some Blacks if they are involved in her family business, she may even have a Black friend or two, but she is not very likely to date Black men, unless he is a celebrity or ultra rich guy.
- Rich FOB Asian Girl – Same as rich Asian girl and probably even less likely to date Black men. One possible exception here is the fact that many native Asian women older than 30 are often considered old maids in their own country. In some countries like China, rich Asian women are known to hold special mixers with western men, including a few black businessmen, in hopes of finding marriage companions. While these women may be considered old maids in their own countries, they are often very attractive women and would be considered quite eligible in the US.
- Blonde Sorority White Washed Asian Girl – The title alone will tell you this type of Asian woman will not date Black men. Sometimes after they have bad experiences with White guys, they are more open to dating Black men, but you shouldn’t waste a lot of time with this type.
- Forever Single Asian Girl – This type has ridiculously high standards and often an over the top ego. Better not to waste your time with this type.
So you may say, the types breakdown is all well and good, but what about a breakdown by nationality? The fact of the matter is that largely, Asian nationality does not determine an Asian lady’s likelihood to date or not date Black men. You will find Asian women of every nationality that are open and not open to dating Black men, so don’t believe that one nationality of Asian women never dates Black men – this is simply not true. The only guidance I would give on Asian nationality is that Filipinas seem to be the most open to dating Black men, but after that, all Asian nationalities are pretty similar in their degree of openness to date black men.
Also keep in mind that much of what is sometimes interpreted as Asians being racist towards Blacks is often simply a complete lack of familiarity with Blacks, along with a mutual lack of understanding of the cultural differences between Blacks and Asians. See this prior post on cultural differences for more discussion on this topic. Much of what gets labeled as racist between Blacks and Asians is really more a mutual lack of familiarity with each other, and the more time that Asians and Blacks spend together, the more they better understand the cultural differences and begin to build some really great relationships. There is a reason why Asian and Black relationships and marriages often hold up much better than other interracial relationships – see this prior post – which continues to fuel the high growth of Asian and Black couples today.
Clearly not all Asian women are the same. For Black guys, don’t waste your time pursuing Asian women who are not interested in Black men, since there are plenty of Asian women who are open to dating Black men. Getting to know the type of lady you are dealing with can help give you some guidance on whether she might be open to dating Black men or not, but at the end of the day, every person is unique, so use your common sense. Also if you want to hear directly from Asian women, what do Asian women think about Black men, check out this post. If you are looking for activities where you can meet Asian women, check out this post. If you are looking for the best cities for Black and Asian dating, check out this post, and if you are looking for the best Asian oriented dating sites, see our view of the top 3 Asian dating sites for Black men.
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Good luck to everyone!